Men are like buses. You miss one and there’s another. A lot of women would surely say this especially after they broke their hearts several times. Yet, it’s up to us if we would immediately ride for the next bus and wait for the upcoming bus. The act of waiting is really not easy because how you wait during that time is really what matters most.
Because of this, the book, What To Do Until Love Finds You by Michelle McKinney Hammond is a relevant one especially for young women today who are seeking for love and who are waiting for love. May you be a single lady or a woman who is already in a relationship, this book is intended for you.
I first saw this book after I read the book, Saving My First Kiss by Lisa Velthouse, almost four years ago. I was intrigued by the title because as a single woman, I questioned myself if what should I really do until true love finally found me? So, I bought this inspiring and encouraging book at the Passages Bookstore in Centrio, Ayala Mall here in our city.
Because of my work during weekdays, it took me more than a month to read this book which is the first one I finished so far this year. It has been one of my goals to read one book per month this 2017.
As a single lady, the book has inspired me to gracefully wait for the person whom God intended for me. I have reflected the mistakes I made on my past relationships and what should I do in order not to commit such shortcomings on my next and hopefully, last relationship with this God-given man.
This book likewise made me reflect on the current situation of our society right now where everything is just taken for granted. Relationships at present are just like fashion trends. When it’s not anymore cool, we immediately go to the next style. However, I believe that relationships should not be taken like that because it should a path to marriage which is a sacred one. The book taught me to always have boundaries within a relationship so that the couple won’t fall into temptation, which leads us to sin and eventually leads to our distraction as human beings.
At the same time, our hearts should always be guarded. We should not just settle for someone just because he says sweet things to you. We should always see our value and our worth as precious women. We should always think of ourselves as a princess who is a daughter of the Mighty King which is God. Through that, we won’t just easily say our high-valued “Yes” to this person. He needs to pursue us and to fight for us. We need to open our eyes and remove the rose-colored glasses. We need to test him in order to see his motives and to know his heart’s desires. Most importantly, he should be the man who respects you as a person and who protects you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Such a tall order, isn’t it? That’s how God lovingly treasures us and that’s also how the man who truly loves us should value us.
The book made me realize that we should not be desperate in finding love because during such times, we just entice negative things in our lives like flypaper that attracts unnecessary objects and insects. We should not be pressured for what the world is trying to tell us. We should not be stressed that our time is ticking. Instead, we should surrender our desperation and the pressures on having a relationship and give it all to Our Almighty Father. At the same time, we must not become like the foolish young virgins on their way to the wedding feats who took their lamps without oil (Matthew 25).
At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish and five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them. The wise ones, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep.
At midnight the cry rang out: ‘Here’s the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!’
Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, ‘Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.’
‘No,’ they replied, ‘there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.’
But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut.
Later the others also came. ‘Lord, Lord,’ they said, ‘open the door for us!’
But he replied, ‘Truly I tell you, I don’t know you.’
Therefore keep watch, because you do not know the day or the hour.
As the author, Michelle McKinney Hammond says, every moment spent waiting is a valuable time of preparation.
You haven’t worked to become a “good woman” in order to get stuck with a “so-so man.” Believe that out of the statistics which says that there are only a few Godly-men left, He has reserved someone special just for you. Because of this, during the wait, drink in God’s wisdom and work to become a valuable woman for the man whom He has reserved for you. When that day comes that love has finally found you, you would eventually say, “Everything was worth the wait.”